Innumerable factors—both physical and psychological—can negatively impact our sex lives. At any given time, disinterest in sex might have something to do with hormonal fluctuations, depression, exhaustion, agitation, the to-do list running through your head...you get the picture.

As a culture, we're pretty good at recognizing these factors and cutting ourselves some slack. But many struggles in the bedroom actually have their roots in the biopsychosocial, meaning they're caused by a combination of biological, psychological and social factors. Hormones, depression and dirty dishes cover the biological and the psychological, but leave out the social.

We don't often think of the sociocultural factors that can lead to unfulfilling sex because they're systemic, making up the building blocks of our beliefs around sexuality. Unfortunately, because we don't perceive the beliefs we carry around inside us, we never think to question them. Rather, we accept them as normal, using them to inform what we think we should be doing or who we should be sexually.

"But when you feel the need to be everything, that's a really dangerous pressure," said Uchenna Ossai, P.T., D.P.T., a pelvic health physical therapist and