The world hasn't always been kind to kinky people. Though much of the damaging rhetoric from psychologists on the subject of BDSM has since been disproved, a lot of the stigma still remains.

On top of that, pop culture fails to depict healthy kinky relationships, leaving the uninformed with a far-from-accurate idea of BDSM (bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism).

Long sequestered to the dark recesses of sex dungeons and kink clubs, it's time to bring BDSM into the light.

Let's clear the air on the most widespread misconceptions about kink, and reframe how we look at them.

Myth: Kink is a result of abuse or trauma.

Reality: Are there people in the BDSM community who have experienced some form of abuse or trauma? Sure. Are they drawn to kink as a result of it? Absolutely not. Piles of sex research suggest fetishism is more "normal" than our puritanical society would lead us to believe.

In a 2016 study, the