How to Harness the Orgasmic Power of the Prostate

The prostate is an important gland in procreation, creating seminal fluid that helps carry sperm to its intended target. But it also has a more modern function as the "P-spot", a powerful pleasure center that can create full-body orgasms.

Whether you're looking for ways to enhance your sex life or feeling experimental, discover how to unlock new experiences and sensations from your prostate.

How to find the prostate

Located below the bladder and just in front of the rectum, the prostate is a hard, walnut-sized gland accessible only through the rectum.

While it's rather difficult to find compared to other erogenous zones, the best way to stimulate it is by using a finger or toy. Once either is inserted in the anus, push the finger or toy inside about 2 to 4 inches toward the front of the body. Feel for a hard mass or lump.

Congratulations, you've found your prostate gland.

How to (safely) use the prostate for pleasure

Inserting anything into the anus requires you and your partner's consent, plus a good understanding of safer sex.

The sphincter, or the ring of muscle that tightens and relaxes at the opening of the anus, does not create any natural lubrication, even when you're aroused. Therefore, you'll want to apply a liberal amount of lube to your fingers or toy. In addition, you'll want to trim your fingernails to avoid internal tears or injury.

Furthermore, you'll also want to make sure to clean your hands and the toy before and afterward. The rectum contains plenty of bacteria necessary for digestion that can harm you or others.

Once you've sanitized everything and located the prostate gland, the sensation when touched is difficult to describe. Many men say it's the same feeling as the urge to urinate. But by going slow, you can push this sensation aside.

After you or your partner feel comfortable, rub the prostate in a back-and-forth or circular motion with the pad of the inserted finger or the toy. While this is happening, you may also want to masturbate, unless the sensation is too overwhelming.

If a prostate massage isn't to your liking, try applying pressure to the prostate for five to 10 seconds at a time while you continue to masturbate. You could also try a combination of all three techniques—after all, you're simply trying to discover what makes you feel good.

A spine-tingling orgasm

Just as every person's body is different and everyone experiences orgasms in different ways, finding what works takes practice. Basically, there's no single straightforward path to achieving a prostate orgasm. In most cases, you might want to try a few times before you find the perfect mix of pressure and massage.

Anyone who consistently uses prostate massage to achieve orgasm often suggests using a finger until you're comfortable and familiar with what you're doing. From there, you can open a treasure chest of possibilities in the form of toys.

Toys for prostate massage come in a variety of sizes, shapes and utilities. They can include models specific to prostate massage, butt plugs and ridged wands. To start, find something with good user reviews that's easy to use, affordable and on the smaller side. This will help you ease into a toy-based prostate massage without feeling like you're overwhelmed or that you spent too much money on something you can't return.

Overcoming the taboo

Even if you're intrigued by the idea of prostate massage, you may first have to overcome the taboo of backdoor play. While generally accepted in the LGBTQIA+ community, heterosexuals may have trouble opening their minds to it. Rest assured, anal play is perfectly normal, not to mention exciting and intensely pleasurable, too.

Dating back as far as the ancient Greeks and beyond, the anal area has been a popular erogenous zone for both males and females. Recent studies point to anal play as increasingly popular, especially among younger generations. However, these reports may not help you become less apprehensive about trying something new.

The real key to comfort is getting familiar with the reasons you want to try it, rather than why society says you shouldn't. Your sexual preferences aren't a reflection of your values or personality. Instead, they reflect your curiosity, your openness to new experiences and an interest in maximizing your physical pleasure.

If you can get past your hangups about anal play, the prostate could unleash a new level of orgasms you have to experience to believe. Think about that.