A Beginner’s Guide to Sex Toys

I’ll be blunt: Sex toys are fun. And if you’ve never used one, either in solo or partner play, you’re in for an exciting time. While it can feel intimidating to purchase or play with your first toy, I assure you it’s not, as this in-depth beginner’s guide to all things sex toy will make clear. All you have to do is enjoy the ride.

Vibrators

Vibrators are perhaps the least daunting of all the sex toys. They’re not difficult to use and they come in a variety of shapes and sizes, many of which can be fun for all genders.

For folks with a vagina, classic, realistic or bullet vibrators are all great options, mainly because they’re straightforward and easy to conceal if needed. People who enjoy anal play can invest in vibrating butt plugs.

Vibrators are also readily available, and you can head to all kinds of online spots—from mainstream websites to specialist retailers—to purchase one.

Once you choose a vibrator, experiment with it and see what feels good to you. While they are typically used for penetration and clitoral stimulation, you can use vibrators to stimulate your nipples and other erogenous zones.

Dildos

If penetration is your jam, dildos might be your go-to toy. Many different options are available for solo or partner play.

Vaginal and anal dildos can differ slightly depending on what exactly you’re looking to do with them. If you’re on the hunt for something simple, you can choose from numerous realistic dildos. If you want something a little more exotic, options abound in all sorts of shapes, curves and colors.

Double-sided dildos are available for people who prefer simultaneous, dual penetration with a partner. Like vibrators, dildo choice will depend on the purpose of your purchase, so take your time to find one that fits your wants, needs and budget.

Butt plugs

Regarded as one of the more intense sex toys, butt plugs are a way to experiment with anal play. Many companies offer a training kit, which typically includes three butt plugs of incrementally larger size, as a way to practice before the “real thing.”

You’ll want to invest in some lubricant, though, especially if you’re just beginning to experiment with butt play. While many lube options are available, choose from the many water-based lubricants as they tend to be compatible with all toy materials.

Penis rings

Sex toys aren’t only for people with a taste for penetration. In fact, an entire realm of gadgets is dedicated to the “outside” parts.

Penis rings, often called cock rings, work by applying steady pressure to the genitals, constricting the internal blood vessels and causing blood to leave the penis more slowly. The goal is to have longer erections and, perhaps, more intense orgasms.

Numerous penis rings are on the market, ranging from ones that vibrate to those made for couples, some which include a ridged vibrator designed to please your partner.

Regardless of your gender or preferences, there’s a sex toy for you. Don’t be shy—you can shop from the comfort of your own home—and don’t be daunted by your “first time.” Turn on, plug in and enjoy.