Vibrators and dildos, butt plugs and anal beads are all great fun—until what goes in doesn’t come out.

Luckily, you can take simple steps to ensure your insertable toy is safe for your intended use, and avoid unnecessary and awkward trips to the emergency room.

What to do if something gets lost in your vagina

It isn’t really possible to lose a toy inside a vagina. This is because the cervix acts as a predominantly one-way door between the vagina and uterus, and there’s no way that a toy can make its way through the opening.

However, a misplaced item inside the vagina can cause infections or even perforate the vaginal canal and bladder. That’s not something anyone wants to happen, so you need to know what to do.

First instruction: Stay calm.

Anything in the vagina will likely work its way out in minutes, with the help of gravity. Use clean hands to gently explore and, if you (or your partner) can touch it, you should be able to carefully pull it out. Breathe in and out, and try to grab it on the exhale.

You can also lie down for several minutes to relax your muscles or perform squats to assist