As life slowly returns to normal, you might feel inclined to resume your dating life. My relationship with apps typically follows a few patterns, where I’ll download some, make profiles, swipe for a bit, land some matches and then either one of two things happens:

  • I have a skin-crawling conversation with someone who "looked interesting," which forces me to question all of humanity, accept my single status and subsequently delete all apps from my phone.
  • I go on a few dates and get ghosted or there is no sign of a spark.

If this sounds familiar and you’ve had enough of how much time and effort dating apps take, it’s best to start looking up from your phone and out into the world for your next match. 

Location, location, location

When you’re trying to meet potential partners in the flesh, look to places where you’re likely to encounter people with the same interests. While a crowded bar may be the quintessential place for a meet-cute, there are less intense