Love language is a relatively new term coined by Gary Chapman in his 1992 book, "The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate." Since the book's publication, asking about someone's love language has become a commonplace question to ask as you're getting to know a potential partner.

Chapman names the five languages as: words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, quality time and physical touch. But like all well-intentioned and helpful advice, the notion of love languages has become shrouded in all kinds of confusion.

Here are some common misunderstandings and the facts to dispel them.

Myth: Figuring out your own love language is the most important step.

Reality: Identifying your own love language, and that of your partner, is important, but it's really just the beginning of your journey.

Many people believe that the concept of this relationship tool is to learn what you need and what to ask for from your partner. But the emphasis of love languages is to learn how to give your partner what they need as much as it is asking for what you need.

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