Why Do Some Women Like Nut Videos? (And Why You Might, Too)

Key Points

• Women like nut videos—videos of a partner orgasming—for obvious reasons, like sexual enjoyment.
• It's not always a sexual thing for all women, though.
• Asking for nut videos can flip gender stereotypes, let a partner know the other trusts them and increase intimacy in relationships.

Editor's note: Some sources requested their full names and locations not be used.

A woman's libido is impacted by hormonal, psychological and social factors. Considering traditional gender roles and American heterosexual relationship dynamics, it isn't difficult to understand why some people believe women have a lower sex drive or how the orgasm gap exists.

While there's plenty of disdain for "dick" pics, particularly the unsolicited variety, not everyone dislikes these pictures and those similar to them. Some women are aroused by "nut videos," or videos of their partner masturbating to climax.

Why do some women enjoy watching nut videos?

"People laugh at me sometimes when I reveal that I love…receiving 'dick' videos," said Jade, a 34-year-old New York-based video producer. "I want to see them."

They're a large part of her sex life, and she prefers to see them before there's even been in-person sexual contact. The pics do it for her, but a video of a man climaxing is the pinnacle, she said.

Women who like to see nut videos want them for various reasons.

"I like to please. It's a turn-on for me when a partner, or even someone I'm casually seeing, is being pleased," said Rebecca, a 31-year-old Texas-based marketing professional who is sexually submissive but leans more independent and dominant in her everyday life.

It's the orgasm that thrills and excites her.

"I want to see your face. I want to see their body language," she said. "I want them, in a sense, to lose control for two and a half seconds and not give a care in the world because they're climaxing and realizing that this feels amazing."

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What does science say about why some women love nut videos?

"When you have an orgasm, or when you're having sex, your body releases oxytocin, which is that feel-good chemical in the brain," said Shelby Sells, a New York City-based life coach who focuses on self-confidence within sex and relationships with her clients.

Oxytocin—aka "the love hormone"—functionally facilitates childbirth. It promotes feelings of love and adoration and is a bonding hormone, Sells said.

Ultimately, orgasms are reinforcers.

"A reinforcer is pretty much a stimulus that increases the frequency or intensity of a behavior; think of Pavlov's dog," Sells said. "When you're having an orgasm and you pair it with something, like somebody's face or smell or a color or whatever it is, the more reinforcement is going to happen."

There's a substantial difference between a static image and a video. Sharing audio and the full experience creates a different type of intimacy. Whether it's within a casual or more committed connection, receiving a video of someone having an orgasm holds weight.

"You can see the pleasure that is coming to them. You can see that orgasm. That is an intimate act in and of itself," said Wendasha Jenkins Hall, Ph.D., an Atlanta-based sex researcher and educator and creator of The Sensible Sexpert.

Nut videos create intimacy without being physically intimate.

"It's maintenance for your sexual relationship," Sells said.

When women are sent a nut video, they're being allowed to know how their partner touches themself, so there's a vulnerability and trust aspect. It's a learning opportunity.

"You see if they like to be touched this way or stroked that way," Hall said. "And when you do come together, you have an idea of what it is that they like, how you can please them and help them reach the orgasm that they want."

Climaxing during masturbation is often a solo act, but Jade said receiving nut videos from multiple partners over time has allowed her to learn so much about men.

"It's like behind-the-scenes access to male sexuality," she said.

"I know how infrequently it is that guys just take videos of themselves or even nudes, and I think there's something hot about how vulnerable they are in that position for me," said Ava, a 27-year-old New York-based communications professional.

"A lot of times, when you are sharing videos, your face is in the video, or you have some identifying marker like a piercing, birthmark or whatnot," Hall said. "So when you're exchanging those videos, you are actively saying that you trust your partner is not going to share this video with anyone else."

It feels good to be desired. The women who want the videos are showing their desire for the people they're asking, and they get to see how much they—and the result of the video—turn on their person physically. This is the reinforcement Sells mentioned.

How are nut videos flipping traditional gender roles?

In addition to it simply being arousing for her, Jade says the role reversal of stereotypical cisgender roles really feeds her ego.

"We're not even having sex. We're not even naked right now. We're not even in the same room, but I can still make you nut, and I have proof of it. And I told you to prove it. It's a reversal of the power dynamic," Jade said.

The willingness and the process add another layer of attraction for Ava.

"Not only do I recognize they're doing it for me—in terms of kind of putting themselves in a private place, getting all ready for it and sending it to me—but then they're sitting there waiting for me to acknowledge receipt of it and hype them up," she said. "I feel like it puts me in a little bit of a power position."

"We [cis women] are socialized to be givers, to be nurturers, and that our happiness and pleasure should come from seeing our partners being happy and pleasured," Hall said. "There are a lot of women who've been raised that way and socialized that way, but there are also women who are more sexually expressive, are not scared to speak up, are not scared to say, 'Hey, my orgasm is my responsibility, and I'm going to pursue that at all costs no matter who the partner is.'"

Despite the openness and empowerment some women have found in their sexuality, it's common for there still to be feelings of shame, especially if they desire marriage or they desire long-term partnership, according to Hall.

"They don't want to be looked at as though they're loose," she said.

Determining what pleasure looks like and pursuing it shouldn't define anyone's worthiness for partnership.

The bottom line

Defining sexual health and what it means to an individual person isn't easy. Nut videos are another way to explore sexuality, especially when you and your partner have established a consensual and safe space for trust and vulnerability to build intimacy in a fun way.