Where to Have Sex Outside the Bedroom
When you're thinking about having sex at home, the first location that likely comes to mind is the bedroom. While bedroom sex is great, of course, you don't want to grow tired of the same old song and dance.
Yes, bedrooms offer a decent selection of positions and activities, but don't neglect other parts of your home. Who knows? You may find your spiciest encounters happen in another space entirely.
Whether you live in a tiny apartment or a sprawling mansion, you never quite know when the mood will strike. Will it be during spring cleaning or dinner prep, or when you're sitting around watching TV? Regardless of the answer, you'll be pleased to know you can get it on just about anywhere if you know what you're doing.
"Having sex in other areas of the house keeps things exciting and interesting; doing anything in one place every time can become routine and monotonous," said Amy Levine, a sex coach in New York City and the founder of the Ignite Your Pleasure website. "It's less about where to go to have sex and more about doing it in other rooms when you're feeling spontaneous."
Amanda Lambros, a certified speaking professional and author in Australia, said having sex in various parts of the house allows for creativity and the chance to try something new, get a fresh perspective and connect with your partner.
"It's an opportunity to spice things up by changing the scenery," she said. "Different areas of the home present different moods, any of which could be enhanced with a little sexual imagination."
This approach is especially beneficial for established couples.
"It can create a new erotic energy," said Sarah Watson, L.P.C., a certified sex therapist in Michigan. "Often in long-term partnerships, we stick to a typical sexual script: how we move, what we do and what we say. Changing locations can create a new point of view and allow you to be more mindful of your time together. It can create a deeper connection during erotic moments."
However, Lambros added a word of caution.
"If you happen to have roommates or kids, you might want to make sure that they are not in the house or on their way back to the house while you are having sex outside the bedroom," she recommended.
Levine and Watson both suggested making sure you are out of potential onlookers' view if you're in the yard or in front of a window.
Oh, the places you'll go
Every couple has options for where to engage in sex at home. In fact, Levine said just about anywhere is a possibility. Within each space, there are ways to exercise creativity by using surfaces, props and even your own body to make the most of any sexual experience.
"Use whatever is around you for support and leverage: counters, shower walls or benches, washing machine or dryer, stairs, etcetera," Levine said. "If you need cushions, grab a pillow, towel or something else within reach that can add comfort on cold or uncomfortable surfaces."
Lambros also emphasized the importance of speaking up to avoid harm or discomfort.
"Communicate that to your partner and shift positions. You want to avoid anything that causes discomfort or pain," she advised.
In addition, Levine noted that these surfaces should be easily washable in case lube or bodily fluids make contact.
"It might get messy, but that's OK! Sex can be so many things," Watson said.
According to Lambros, the most popular room to have sex in outside the bedroom is the kitchen, which has the benefit of additional props. While cooking, Levine suggested heating things up with a quickie.
"The kitchen is wonderful if you have the space and sharp objects are put away," Watson said.
Kitchen counters, as well as chairs and tables, are recommended for sitting or reclining and leverage. If you want to kink it up with a low-budget prop, you can use a spatula or wooden spoon for spanking.
Lambros claimed the living room is the second most popular location for sex, not counting the bedroom. She and Watson advocated the edge of the couch, which can be used for positioning and momentum. Recliners and coffee tables also have comparable merit.
Additionally, the living room has the potential for ambiance.
"If you have a fireplace, using the room to create a warm, comfortable temperature and light is very romantic," Watson recommended. If you don't have a fireplace, candles will suffice.
Each expert mentioned the bathroom as another popular location, particularly in the shower. Water can be an erotic stimulus, according to Watson, and to further enhance the encounter, use shower nozzles, seats, mats and/or grip bars.
Don't forget about the other bathroom possibilities, though. Sitting on the toilet can be a great riding position, and if you just happen to be a katoptronophiliac, sex in front of the mirror is always good.
"Get it on as you take each other's clothes off in the laundry room," Levine recommended.
Folding counters can be used similarly to kitchen counters, and give "permanent press" a whole new meaning by utilizing the washer and dryer. Watson suggested using the top of them if you have a side-by-side laundry room—the machine's vibrations are an added bonus.
Everywhere along the way
These locations represent some of the more obvious choices, but don't be afraid to let your imagination run wild in alternative areas of the house. If you've got enough privacy, you can even venture into the backyard, patio or balcony.
Offices, walk-in closets and even stairways can be other exciting spots, according to the experts.
"The garage or tool shed can be a great experience," Watson added. "If you have a riding lawn mower, try it out."
Similarly, cars can be great vehicles—pun intended—for sexual encounters.
"Use fantasy to amp up your arousal. And roleplay so that no matter where you have sex, you can expand the experience beyond your surroundings," Levine explained.
"Let yourself and your partner be playful," Watson advised. "Make sure you're both on the same page with where you are going to try and see what happens. It's also OK if that [location] has to change in the middle of the encounter."
Wherever you end up having sex in your home, experts agreed that spontaneity, having fun, exercising consent and enjoying yourself are paramount priorities.