While it's not an exact science, pegging—typically defined as a sexual act where a woman penetrates her male partner anally with a strap-on dildo—is believed to be pleasurable because it stimulates a collection of nerves called the prostatic plexus, according to a 2017 study in Clinical Anatomy. The same study presented a "brain rewiring" theory, whereby this style of prostate stimulation becomes more arousing and more pleasurable the more often it's repeated. According to this theory, the rewiring happens because of heightened sensations stemming from changing brain plasticity, triggered by repetitive behavior.

But what type of experience do people with vulvas who peg their sex partners have? We spoke to three people who, despite seeming physically detached from the object that's immediately pleasing their partners, find their own satisfaction through the act. They emphasized how the misconceptions, stereotypes and "othering" of this type of sex isn't doing any favors for the givers, receivers or just about anyone intrigued by the act.

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