To fully understand sex—and to get the most out of it—it’s important to learn things like how orgasms work, the different kinds of sex and their risks, and more.

Understanding the orgasm

For both men and women, orgasm consists of four stages whose names vary from source to source but whose characteristics are similar: 1) excitement/desire/libido, 2) arousal/plateau, 3) orgasm/climax, and 4) resolution.

Excitement

This refers to a state of arousal, or the feeling of being “turned on.”

When women experience sexual excitement, there is an increased blood flow to the sex organs: the vagina, the clitoris and the nipples. Sexual excitement also causes a general flushed feeling all over the body as overall body temperature increases