When my first same-sex relationship ended, my first thought was that now I would have the chance to become a mother in the future. This had nothing to do with my partner being a woman, but rather, that she didn't want to have children. I had accepted being with her meant I wouldn't be a parent. When our relationship ended, I realized not having children is a deal-breaker for me.

As I was in my early 30s and suddenly single, I decided to look into freezing my eggs. A few years ago, I would have never considered freezing my eggs or IVF. I was still in the closet and hadn't accepted that when I start a family, it may be with a woman or nonbinary person—and we may need fertility assistance to conceive.

The path to LGBTQIA+ assisted reproduction isn't a straight path—often medical procedures and third parties are involved. Partners who want to start a family together but have the same reproductive organs can't have an unplanned baby. Queer family planning takes time, money and an emotional toll.

So how can a queer family conceive? There are many options, and I talked to the experts to find out the details.

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