The holidays are imminent, and with them come the unsolicited questions about when you're going to start a family. These questions are annoying at any time, but when you're struggling with infertility, they can feel especially painful.

Infertility, defined as the inability to become pregnant after having regular intercourse without birth control after one year (or after six months if a woman is 35 or older), is common. According to the Office of Population Affairs in the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services, about 12 to 13 percent of couples in the United States have trouble conceiving—so you're not alone. People all across the country are sitting down for holiday meals dreading the questions to come.

Whatever your particular situation is, you have the right to discuss your fertility and family planning on your own time. Here are some