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A Conversation with Aydian Dowling
In this one-on-one conversation with Giddy's Briona Jenkins, transgender activist and fitness coach Aydian Dowling discusses the joy of fatherhood.
Aydian says he did not think having a family was in the cards for him, because he was told children weren't possible during his transitioning period. Aydian also feared he wouldn't have a connection with his kids if he did not give birth to them.
Over time, Aydian realized that genetics were not important and decided it was time for him and his wife to grow their family. Now, he's taking on the most rewarding experience of his life: fatherhood.
I think as someone who's gotten to watch your journey of fatherhood and how much being a dad has meant to you, what has that journey been like for you as a person who never thought you'd get here? You now have a partner and a baby, and it's just an experience.
The fucking dream. It really is. Like, I feel really, really blessed and grateful that I have a partner who loves me and wanted to build a family with me. And I always wanted a family and when I transitioned, they tell you right away, which is untrue for those who need to hear that, it's untrue, but they imbed in you that you won't be able to have kids.
And so I immediately was like, OK, well, I won't have kids, like physical, within my body. Like I won't be having a baby. And it kind of took that—I thought that I wouldn't be connected to my kid if I didn't birth them, you know? And so, like, it just doesn't fucking matter. It just really—you know, it just doesn't matter about the genetics of my child like, and that was a lot of processing to get through. But yeah, fatherhood is awesome.
After getting to know you and knowing all of your hard work, there is one thing we haven't talked about and that's your other child, Point of Pride.
And I would love to know more about that.
Yeah. I've tried to fact check myself, it's kind of hard to find, but I'm pretty confident we can say we are the largest 100% trans volunteer run nonprofit for trans and non-binary folks in the world.
My final question for you today is, what makes you giddy?
What makes me giddy? OK. The—[laughs] So what makes me giddy is long legs. There was a number one attraction to my wife, just like nice long legs. Like, that will get your boy giddy. Is that what you were thinking?
I was not.
But now that I-- now that I know, and I know your wife and how tall she is and she does have long legs—
It makes sense.
—that makes sense. Mm-hmm.
Yeah, you're like, ah, I get it.