Sean Stewart talks about aging and changes to his sex life
Entrepreneur Sean Stewart sat down with Giddy's Marisa Sullivan to discuss low testosterone, the importance of regular prostate cancer screenings and performance anxiety in the bedroom.
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A Conversation With Sean Stewart
Entrepreneur Sean Stewart, 41, sat down with Giddy's Marisa Sullivan for a discussion about the changes he—and every man—experiences as he gets older. Most notably, as men age, they experience a drop in testosterone levels. This hormonal imbalance can result in decreased libido and low energy, according to Stewart.
Stewart also emphasized the importance of regular screenings, especially for prostate cancer. His father, musician Rod Stewart, battled prostate cancer for three years. Due to the strong genetic component in prostate cancer risk, Sean Stewart revealed that he gets checked for the disease every few months.
Stewart also got candid about a condition that affects most men: performance anxiety. This internal pressure can cause men to "go soft." This raw honesty about something very few men talk openly about is what sets Stewart apart. "I'm very real because it's something you can't help," Stewart admitted.
You're about to turn 41. Let's talk about that. When did you start noticing changes as a man?
As you get older, your testosterone levels drop. You're not as sexually active. Your energy level drops. I still have energy and can work out for an hour straight.
You're just not as horny all the time?
I am a little bit, but it comes and goes. That's normal for someone my age. I have moments where I am sexual, and there are moments where I'm not.
A lot of men my age won't talk about it because of insecurity, and they act as if they can do it every second of every day. But, really, it's false. They're really not. They have to take Viagra.
As you get older, people are not as honest. I'm very real because it's something you can't help—it's something that happens to you as you get older. But, I think you just have to be honest about it. Don't beat yourself up—it's something that happens with older age.
Growing up in Hollywood and the music industry, you didn't have the same childhood as someone in the Midwest. How did that affect your view of women, sex, relationships?
It was different. I would go on tour with my dad and leave a show of his through the backlot in the limo, and there are 5,000 people waiting outside, screaming, jumping on the limo.
I was like, "Wow. Is this normal?" You just live a different lifestyle. It's not normal to other people, but it's normal to me.
What was your view on women? When you see these women going after your dad, did it affect how you treated women? Did anyone have to put you in your place at an early age?
When I was younger, I wasn't as nice as I am now. Men mature at a later age than women.
Who talked to you about sex?
I remember my parents having the talk with me, but it was so long ago. I think my dad had the talk with me once, the bird and the bees, when I was 12 or 13.
Your mom is such an advocate for the cancer community. Has she inspired you to get into it?
She's always like, "Get a checkup every couple of months. Get your blood drawn and see if there's any cancer."
And you're good? Because of your family history, you've checked your prostate and all that?
Everything is good.
You're 41 years old and we want everyone to know how important it is to get checked.
As you get older, you want to get checked up. You want to make sure that there's no growth or form of cancer growing. You want to catch it at an early stage.
To settle the minds of the men out there who may be scared to get their you-know-what checked, tell me what it's like going in? What do they do?
It's not as bad as you think. They just put on a little glove, you drop the pants, and they touch the ball sack to see if there's anything there. It's just a doctor's hand in a glove. You really gotta go out there and get checked. Get bloodwork done, make sure you are healthy. You want to make sure you get it before it gets worse.
Now, you seem like an old pro at this, but your first time, were you nervous?
Not really. It happens every day. People go in and get checkups.
What was your most embarrassing moment sexually? What things embarrass guys during sex?
I think the thing about a guy is that they put so much pressure on themselves and think, "Oh my god, I gotta do this good [sic]!" So, the most embarrassing thing is probably going soft. It's happened to a lot of people. It's happened to me a few times.
It's the anxiety, performance anxiety. A lot of people get it.