The end of any relationship is hard. It can be painful, awkward and just plain sad. The bond with your therapist isn't quite on par with romantic connections, but you should be asking yourself similarly tough, if necessary, questions throughout your time together: Am I getting what I need? Is this helping me grow as a person? Am I moving forward in life?
In dating, it's usually pretty clear pretty quickly when you're not a match. But it can take a little longer to see whether you're connecting with the person you hired to listen to your innermost thoughts. Maybe you wanted a solution-focused therapist to help you tackle problems like a phobia or eating disorder, but end up with one who wants to dig deeper into who you are to help you address issues such as bereavement or anger management; after a few sessions, you might realize you're not getting what you most need out of the process.
And that's OK! In fact, understanding that is part of a therapist's job.
"A healthy therapeutic alliance should include the therapist checking in and evaluating with the client (while having) an open discussion about this," said