Interacting with a child or adult who's been physically, sexually or emotionally abused can be complicated, especially if you're not fully aware of their history of abuse. If you confront them with a question they don't like, they may not answer truthfully, because they may be afraid of consequences.

If you're used to cruel punishment of any kind when someone perceives you haven't done what you're told or what's expected of you, a lie may help avoid a concurrent punishment.

"Lying is a common trauma response," said Laura, a foster parent who uses just her first name on the popular TikTok account Foster Parenting, in one of her viral videos. "Punishing will not get you the results you want when parenting a child who has experienced neglect or abuse. It can encourage more lying."

The same can be said about adults whose