I grew up picturing my 20s as a series of sexual adventures I could turn into steamy stories (let's blame Carrie Bradshaw for that). So it was pretty disappointing to grow up and learn that those moments were often fleeting or disappointing, and that even consensual sex could go terribly wrong, and do lasting damage.

I wasn't always looking for romance, per se, but I romanticized sex in a way that often ended in tears. Luckily, there was "Girls," which made its splashy debut on HBO in 2012, to show me that wading through pain and chaos on the path to sexual empowerment was still a valid way to get there, whether it made for a good story or not. It wasn't just that the sex was super-graphic, as HBO productions can famously be. The sex on "Girls" was hyperrealistic, decidedly unglamorous and often problematic.

One scene in the second season ensnared the internet in a bitter debate about the line between bad sex and rape. A lot of the sex was much more kinky and primal than what TV audiences were used to, and it caused quite a stir, generating breathless thinkpieces throughout the show's run.

'Girls' gave