It can be difficult to enjoy tactile pleasure without feeling a certain kind of pressure building inside your body. And, let's be clear, I'm not talking about the erotic buildup that precedes orgasm.

For many people who experience difficulty being touchy-feely, this pressure might sound familiar. If you've ever found yourself growing tense during an otherwise pleasant and intimate experience, you might want to know more about the concept of sensate focus.

What is sensate focus?

"Non-demand pleasuring" is the name of the game in sensate focus, according to Lawrence Siegel, M.A., C.S.E., a clinical sexologist in Boynton Beach, Florida. He has found the sex therapy technique to be helpful when working with couples and individuals who have dealt with issues surrounding touch and pleasure.

"One of the most difficult things for people to do, and for some people, it's almost impossible...is to just passively experience and enjoy touch," Siegel said.

Siegel explained that people often feel compelled to think of sexual acts as