Do you feel like exploring BDSM but don’t know where to begin? Have you always wanted to try something kinky but never had the right partner? Though it may sound daunting, I encourage you to claim this part of your identity and own it.

For more than a decade, I have been exploring the many wonderful aspects of kink, from embodied inquires in dark dungeons to theory and rhetoric in the hallowed halls of academia. Along the way, I have collected a few pieces of wisdom I’d like to share with you. I hope these pointers help you feel more confident as you begin your journey into the world of BDSM.

Tell your partner

The BDSM acronym is a blend of three different terms: bondage and discipline (BD), dominance and submission (D/s), and sadism and masochism (SM). BDSM encompasses a wide range of kinks.

For many people, opening up to their partner about their less-than-traditional desires can be the tallest hurdle to overcome. Whether you’ve been married to your partner for decades or you’re just starting something new, this conversation has the potential to end a