Is 'Breeding Kink' Just Human Nature?
Say what you will about TikTok, but it's at least a place where many of its users feel comfortable being themselves, meaning it's a location for candid, in-depth discussions about kinks and their nuances. One of the subjects gaining traction is "breeding kink," with more than 5.1 million views of videos with the associated hashtag.
Breeding kink is an impregnation-based fantasy where people indulge in the thrill of risky, potentially procreative sex. Participants are "excited and possibly aroused by being intimate without protection, without condoms," said @screenwriterlisi, who created one of the most popular videos on the topic, "because the idea behind this kink is to inseminate someone."
'It's very possible that folks [with this kink] like the idea of pregnancy or impregnating someone but do not have the desire to actually be pregnant or have a child.'
Or, put more bluntly by popular TikToker @taxigraph in a video viewed almost a million times, "I just wanna slam someone down and pump them full of my goo."
To what extent is breeding a kink, though, rather than a biological impulse? After all, our existence has depended upon people engaging in this "kink" since the beginning of humanity.
Well, as both experts and participants explain, breeding can be a kink because it often doesn't correlate with a genuine desire for pregnancy. "[It's] more complex than what we may imagine," said Elyssia Helfer, a licensed marriage and family counselor in Los Angeles with a background in kink. "It's very possible that folks like the idea of pregnancy or impregnating someone but do not have the desire to actually be pregnant or have a child."
Christopher, 29, said his breeding kink manifests in the idea of someone else getting his partner pregnant. "It has to do with the idea or thrill of seeing a woman impregnated, preferably by a strong, virile man," he explained. "For me, it often goes together with the cuckoldry fetish, where my wife or girlfriend would be having sex with a superior, 'real' man and getting more pleasure than she could get with me. Impregnation just takes that taboo further, if that makes sense."
This can be a risky indulgence, especially if it involves unprotected sex. "In terms of safety, we have to remember that many kinks come at a risk," Helfer said, "and that it is crucial to remain aware of what those risks are. If I had a client who was into this kink, we would discuss contraception, protection, STI risk and so on. We would also discuss the importance and absolute necessity of consent for all parties."
For participants, the risk is part of the appeal: It's the element that pushes the concept of "breeding" beyond a biological urge and into the world of kink. "[Risk] heightens our sensations and allows us to truly be immersed in a fantasy," Helfer said. "Breeding kink can be very exciting to integrate into a relationship if all parties are comfortable and accepting of the risks."
But risk isn't the only reason people dabble in this kink. Maddy*, 28, a trans woman who identifies as "straight-ish," associates it with femininity and bonding. "Part of my love for it stems from that trust I need," she explained. "I have no desire to have children, but I love the fact that someone is deeming me worthy to come inside after growing up abused and neglected." Maddy added that "a lot of it seems to come from my relationship with gender and sexuality. ...It's a really intense form of forced feminization, and it gives me a lot of gender euphoria."
There are, of course, more profane appeals, too. "Come is kind of the most crucial part of it for me," Maddy concludes. "It's sort of a 'forbidden fruit.'"