When I began my transition three years ago, I was confronted with how many things cisgender people do without a thought that I'd no longer be able to, such as choosing clothes to wear to the beach, going out to bars and parties, or talking on the phone without hyper-analyzing the sound of my own voice.

One of the biggest things, though, was sex.

Of course, regardless of your gender identity, you can still have fears, concerns or questions about sex and who you sleep with, but it goes double for trans people and the people who have sex with them. Language is constantly evolving, and it's easy to get lost in technicalities, especially when people's feelings are at stake.

But just so you know, we "special snowflakes" aren't "attention-seeking." If anything, we want our lives to pan out as smoothly as anybody else's, and we often wish it didn't take any extra work on behalf of other people.

A lose-lose scenario

Although I hate to say it out loud, being trans does require extra thought and care. For me, this is for many reasons, with the two biggest being how men who are romantically interested in