I am frequently told, "Oh, I've never met a nonbinary person before," and I feel it's my responsibility to break the news to you: You most definitely have.

You can't tell a person's sexuality or gender just by looking at them, and not everyone is public about their identities. In fact, a 2013 Pew Research Survey of LGBT Americans found that only about half of all LGBT people were "out" to their family, friends and co-workers.

What is 'coming out' and who does it?

The phrase "coming out" originated among gay men, who used it as a reference to debutante culture, where a young woman's "coming out" was her introduction to high society (and a signal that she was available for courtship leading to marriage). Gay men mimicked the phrase to mean that they had told other gay men that they, too, were gay.

No one is entirely sure where the closet came in, but these days, coming out refers to the process of telling people that your gender, sex or sexual orientation isn't what larger