My grandmother looked me in the eyes and said, "There is no sex after 40." I was young enough that I had not experienced my first kiss yet, let alone sex, but old enough that the statement registered as grave and sad. Over the years, as I steadily climbed toward 40, I often thought back to this moment. How many women have closed the sex chapter of their life by middle age? Perhaps for many of a certain generation, my grandmother's comment might have been true.
But for myself and many of my girlfriends, passing 40 has ushered in a stage of what has been, so far, the hottest sex of our lives. Regardless of who, if anyone, we are choosing to share beds with, our relationship to sex has revealed itself to be much more rewarding than sex from any preceding decade.
In his "Guide to Getting It On," Paul Joannides writes: "People have always believed that a woman's sex drive goes down when she enters menopause. Yet researchers have discovered that when a menopausal woman gets into a new relationship, she can be as horny as many 20-somethings."