7 Great Sex Positions for Female Orgasms
To say it’s difficult for women to climax during sex is an understatement. The “orgasm gap” between heterosexual men and women isn’t just real, it’s huge. While 95 percent of straight men report that they usually climax during sex, the number drops to 65 percent for straight women. The reasons are numerous: different needs, social rules, emotional experiences and so on and so on and so on.
However, just because women are having fewer orgasms than men doesn’t mean they have to.
Of course, you could simply incorporate more clitoral stimulation or hop on top for more control, but some spicier positions you may not have heard of could seal the deal (hello, pinner).
CAT, or coital alignment (or adjusted) technique
My guess is you’ve never heard of this sly and amazingly effective take on the missionary position. Here’s how you do it: As you would normally prepare for the missionary position, lie on your back with your partner on top of you. However, the penetrative partner should be higher up on your body than the standard missionary. His head should be closer to the headboard than it normally would be, for a frame of reference.
Have your partner align the base of his penis (or the object of insertion) so it rubs against the clitoris. Tuck your pelvis and have your partner penetrate from this angle: Think more up-and-down pumping motions than back-and-forth. Not only does this stimulate the clitoris, but it’s a way to target the elusive G-spot.
The pinner
This is a good position for anyone who is self-conscious about touching themselves in front of a partner. Lie flat on your stomach and have your partner enter you from behind. He can thrust as normal, and you have easy (and private) access to your clitoris to help you reach the big O.
90-degree doggy style
This is a much more satisfying version of the traditional doggy-style position. Bend 90 degrees over a bed or a couch or even a table with a pillow to cushion your hip bones. Have your partner enter you from behind. The 90-degree angle will allow him to better stimulate the internal extensions of your clitoris along the vaginal wall, and you can still work your clitoris manually.
Sideways straddle
Have your partner lie on his back, with his knees bent up and feet flat. Mount him, but turned at an angle so you are straddling one of his legs, facing away from him. From this position, you’ll be able to ride him, sort of like in cowgirl, but with the added benefit of the grinding action of your pubic bone and clitoris against his thigh.
Lifted missionary
This is a good cross between the standard missionary and CAT. For this position, start in standard missionary, on your back with your partner lowering himself down onto you. This time, however, use a few pillows to prop your hips up. The elevation will make it easier to hit the G-spot.
Legs on shoulders
An all-time favorite of all genders, legs on shoulders does require a bit of flexibility from both partners. Lie on your back and have your partner lower himself on to you. Place your legs over his shoulders—get him to help with this—with your knees pressing into your chest. This puts your pelvis in a position for deep penetration, and you should still be able to reach down between your legs to stroke your clitoris while he thrusts. This is a super-sensual position, especially if you’re very flexible and his face can get close to yours.
Flatiron
Similar to the pinner, you’re placed facedown with your partner entering you from behind. For the flatiron, however, you’ll place a pillow or two beneath your hip bones, so your butt is pushed up. This way, he’ll hit even more erotic zones inside of you, and your lifted pelvis makes it easier for you to use your hands to add to the fun.
Include clitoral stimulation for good sex
There’s obviously no right or wrong way to have good sex, but these highly recommended positions are some of the most efficient ways for your body to receive maximum clitoral stimulation. With the help of a willing partner, you should be able to reach new heights of excitement and, hopefully, an orgasm or two, or many.