Reports show that about 50% of women have experienced being with a partner with erectile dysfunction, or ED. Out of those women, 70% felt personally affected and inadequate as a result of their partner’s inability to have an erection. It’s important to be educated and communicative about erectile dysfunction and relationships, as female partners are often asking themselves, “How do I help my partner with his ED? What am I doing wrong? Am I not attractive anymore?”
It’s common for men to experience ED. While it can seem like a major obstacle, it’s important to remember that 1 in 4 men experience ED before the age of 30. ED is highly treatable, and can be brought on by many physical and psychological causes besides a lack of attraction, or love.
Causes of erectile dysfunction
Erectile dysfunction occurs when there are complications with:
- Blood flow to the penis
- Nerve supply to the penis
- Hormone levels
ED symptoms can be brought on by physical or psychological factors including stress, depression, and performance anxiety.
ED’s effect on female partners
Female partners experience the effects of ED just like their male counterparts. Many women report feelings of inadequacy or depression due to their partner’s ED. This is why it’s important for women to be part of the conversation, and be an active and supportive part of the solution. The challenge is that many women are unlikely to bring up their partner’s ED for fear of offending them or drawing attention to an insecurity.
Ladies, try this for your partner’s ED
There’s a number of ways you can be part of the conversation about erectile dysfunction and relationships, and make a positive change in your sexual health and intimacy.
Have a candid conversation. Start with your own feelings about the situation, and then allow your partner to express as much or as little as they’re ready to. Let them know you’re willing to try whatever they need to help them get their confidence back.
Take the pressure off. Sometimes, anxiety and fear of under-performing can further inhibit a man’s ability to get an erection. Find ways to show your partner there’s no pressure, and that you can enjoy your intimate time together in alternative ways.
Try a non-prescription option. Products like Giddy can be a great first step before looking into less safe, more expensive forms of ED treatment like pills or surgery. Suggest Giddy to your partner as a fun, low-risk way to spice up your intimate time.